Coping with the death of a loved one can be the most traumatic and stressful situation most people ever deal with. As the bereaved struggle to make sense of their new situation, they often find that the advice they receive is produced by medical professionals who have never personally experienced grief, is filled with platitudes and clichés, and is of very little practical help.
How long does grief last? What can I do to help myself? Are there really five stages of grief? Why can’t other people understand how I feel? Will I ever be happy again? Grief: The Inside Story answers such questions while debunking many established beliefs about what grief is, how it affects those left behind, and how to adjust to a world that no longer contains your loved one.
Although the subtitle is “A Guide to Surviving the Loss of a Loved One,” the book is written especially for those who have lost someone intrinsic to their lives, such as a spouse or life mate, and who now struggle to cope with their new realities. People always want grievers to “get back to normal,” but as Grief: The Inside Story shows, there is no “normal” to get back to back to, but grievers can eventually find renewal in their lives.
Grief: The Inside Story – A Guide to Surviving the Loss of a Loved One is available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Grief-Inside-Story-Guide-Surviving/dp/0368039668/
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Pat Bertram is the also the author of Grief: The Great Yearning, “an exquisite book, wrenching to read, and at the same time full of profound truths.” Connect with Pat on Twitter. (@PatBertram) Like Pat on Facebook.
April 6, 2019 at 2:55 pm
I told my parents about it. Hopefully they pre-ordered it.
April 6, 2019 at 3:09 pm
Grief , in my experience comes in waves. The ocean is so large at the time, the waves are choppy and the sound from the loved one resemble guttural, wailing sounds. Do not shy away. Grief is one’s journey through the process.
The truth that is seldom told is that trauma changes you. Death can resemble and can be traumatic. But make not mistake, this is nothing to avoid or feel shame over. Let grief in, hold it in your lap. It is not something to b scared of. It is here to teach us. And acceptance comes when we are ready. Not one single person, outside of yourself can tell you when you are “there”. Whatever that means. Sometimes it is packing up clothes, or walking without a had to hold or finding that your true self has aspirations that had been ignored. Lean IN. Feel. Cry, sooth and know that this journey teaches us when we are ready. Strive, with self care, to be ready when the universe whispers.
April 6, 2019 at 8:57 pm
Thank you. That’s beautiful. I like the image of holding grief in your lap, as if grief isn’t an interloper, but something that is an essential part of our lives.
April 7, 2019 at 3:29 am
Grief is personal and individual. No set time limit, no set stages.
It can be a taboo subject though. One many do not discuss and yet it will affect us all.
Congrats on the book!
April 8, 2019 at 9:44 am