Housewifery

People keep asking me if I’m writing, but . . . no, not to the extent that I’m actually putting words on paper (or what passes for paper in the computer world). I am still thinking of my next book, however, mentally putting together bits and pieces of my new life as a housewife (houseowner, actually, but it sometimes feels as if this house is a significant other, as if we’re married to death do us part).

I do have a victim for this potential book — someone I would like removed from my life: a fellow who plays his music way too loud too often, with the bass turned up (turned down?) so that it vibrates my windows and my brain pan, and can be heard for blocks away. (Someone said he’s letting his customers know his drug “store” is open.) Considering that he’s also been rumored to sell tools he’s stolen from a mutual neighbor, there would be a whole list of possible villains. (Though is it villainy if the doer gets rid of a neighborhood problem? Isn’t it more like pest control?)

But this vague musing is the only writing activity I’ve been doing. Mostly, I’m doing house things such as stuccoing over a doggie door, framing and painting a new door, and setting up solar lights. Ah, the things one does when it comes to the caring and feeding of one’s house!

The yard still holds a surprise or two. I woke the other morning to this little glory. It’s amazing anything can survive this heat, but some plants seem to like the area. Now I just have to find more things that can take care of themselves.

As for taking care of myself — I have days where I take care of myself and days when I don’t, but I am trying not to let the heat make me too much of a hermit. Yesterday I went with a couple of friends to see the Koshare Dancers — a pretty amazing troupe of dancers that tries to live up to the spirit of the native dances. And other excursions are in the planning stage. Oddly, considering that for years I spent hours every day roaming the desert, I seldom walk just to walk any more. Maybe when the house projects are coming to end, maybe when it cools off, I’ll be more likely to hoof it for the sake of hoofing it, but now, I merely walk for transportation — such as going to the library, to an occasional exercise class. Or to the hardware store. I’ve never before been on a first name basis with hardware store workers!

Such an adventure, this owning a house.

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Pat Bertram is the author of Grief: The Inside Story – A Guide to Surviving the Loss of a Loved One. “Grief: The Inside Story is perfect and that is not hyperbole! It is exactly what folk who are grieving need to read.” –Leesa Healy, RN, GDAS GDAT, Emotional/Mental Health Therapist & Educator.

9 Responses to “Housewifery”

  1. rami ungar the writer Says:

    I hate neighbors like that. I’ve had one or two who’ve made sleeping difficult with the noise they’ve made. Thankfully they’ve been kicked out of their apartments for being nuisances pretty quickly, but it looks like that won’t be an option for you, will it? At least you get to kill them in a novel.

  2. Judy Galyon Says:

    I’m glad to see you expanding things. You are adventurous & very busy. Maybe one day I will be that way. Good luck with your projects.

  3. Constance Says:

    Sounds like you are enjoying your house and garden. And, enjoying your life too.

  4. paulakaye Says:

    We have a noise ordinance here in my neck of the woods. Sounds like you are doing good. I just had my 5 year anniversary of Richard’s death. This past year was worse than the first year. But I know there is hope. Just look at you.

    • Pat Bertram Says:

      It’s so hard. I think sometime this past year I just gave up, or more probably, just got tired of the whole thing. If I let myself think of him, I’m right back where I was, so I seldom let myself think of those days with him because the whole concept of death and his being gone is still too immense. And makes no sense. I hope this year will be better for you.


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