Yang and Yanger

When I was young, I thought the world would be a different place when women began to run things. Oh, my — what was I thinking?

Looking back, I suppose I was thinking that the women who would achieve leadership would bring feminine attributes to the position, a mother earth (or earth mother) who sees all, gently ushers us to peace and prosperity, shows us the way to kindness and caring, displays wisdom and understanding and especially creativity — an outflowing of life-giving forces that take us where we need to be.

Instead, what we have are a whole slew of Lucrezia Borgias and Lizzie Bordens. Women who will do anything to achieve their ends (their ends, not our ends), to do what is best for them (best for them, not best for us). Women who, it seems, will bludgeon us with their power and if that doesn’t work, they’ll bring out the axes. (I’m probably maligning Lucrezia and Lizzie for the sake of parallelism, but they were the first names that come to mind for examples of women who are seen as more vicious than men.)

I know the consensus is that women have to be more ruthless than men (unless you were a supreme court judge, then you needed to be simply ruth), stronger and more aggressive to get ahead, but if this is the case, then what do we need women in power for? We already have men playing those games. Instead of the balance of yin and yang, we now have yang and yanger. This doesn’t bode well for a well-rounded world, which, in fact, isn’t round but is an oblate spheroid or oblate ellipsoid, but you get my point.

Their point, the point of those in power, that is, has nothing to do with a well-rounded society at peace with itself and the world. It has everything to do with . . .

I had to stop here and think. What is the point of those in power? What are they trying to gain? More power for themselves, of course, as well as a ton of money, but other than that, I haven’t a clue. All I know is that both men and women are struggling for a power that doesn’t seem to have anything to do with making us or our lives better.

It’s disappointing to me (the me that was once young and idealistic) that women are settling for so little. I thought we were better than that.

Apparently not.


Pat Bertram is the author of Grief: The Inside Story – A Guide to Surviving the Loss of a Loved One. “Grief: The Inside Story is perfect and that is not hyperbole! It is exactly what folk who are grieving need to read.” –Leesa Healy, RN, GDAS GDAT, Emotional/Mental Health Therapist & Educator

11 Responses to “Yang and Yanger”

  1. Royann Behrmann Says:

    I dreamed that we were better, also. Alas, ’tis not so.

  2. rheashowalter Says:

    So true. I have often thought the same thing. I heard repeatedly that the world would be a better, nicer place if women ran it. My, my, is that ever wrong! All we have is yanger and a lot of that word without the y. We have smart, brave, wise, compassionate women out there but apparently that does not get many of them into power. I have considered a move to South Dakota though.

    • Pat Bertram Says:

      I like that — the yanger without the y. There is so much of that going around, and yet I get the feeling it’s being created. Or maybe a situation is being created where anger is coming to the fore.

  3. Malcolm R. Campbell Says:

    I wish I could say that we have more equality now. But I’m not sure that we do. Things seem kind of, sort of, maybe a little better. But we’re far behind where we ought to be.

    • Pat Bertram Says:

      We seem to have reached a point where almost everyone feels discriminated against in one way or another. That might be as closes to equality as we will ever get.

  4. Sam Sattler Says:

    This kind of thing always seems to happen. Those who rant and rave about the injustices of others, tend to turn into those very people when they assume a power role. And that is very, very sad.

  5. Uthayanan Says:

    I really believe that the world might be better of leadership with women by nature. But I am afraid that with the arms race, technologies, men are going to destroy their own world. I believe that period I will be not living anymore.

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