Thank You For a Heartwarming and Heartbreaking Day

On Monday when I logged into my wordpress account, I discovered that my I Am a Three-Month Grief Survivor post had received thousands of views and dozens of comments. A quick check of my stats showed that most of the views came from WordPress. Imagine my surprise when I saw that my post had made the home page. Whew. Took my breath away.

Then I read the comments, and that was the end of breathing for a while. I was awed by the willingness of people to support me in my grief and overwhelmed by the generosity of those who shared their own stories of grief. So much pain. So much sadness. So much love.

One woman posted a link to a list of online communities that could potentially help, so if you are grieving, be sure to check it out.

Another woman posted a quote:

Here at the frontier there are falling leaves…although my neighbors are all barbarians, and you, you are a thousand miles away…there are always two cups at my table. – Tang Dynasty

And a third woman told me about “Death is Nothing at All,” a poem by Henry Scott Holland that might offer comfort:

Death is nothing at all.
I have only slipped away to the next room.
I am I and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other,
That, we still are.

Call me by my old familiar name.
Speak to me in the easy way
which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word
that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect.
Without the trace of a shadow on it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same that it ever was.
There is absolute unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight?

I am but waiting for you.
For an interval.
Somewhere. Very near.
Just around the corner.

All is well.

It was an incredible day for me,  heartwarming and heartbreaking all at once. Thank you, everyone, who stopped by to read or to comment.

2 Responses to “Thank You For a Heartwarming and Heartbreaking Day”

  1. Carol J. Garvin Says:

    I saw all the comments when I checked back at your blog later in the day and was so happy to find people offering their words of caring and support. We probably all wanted the same thing… for you to know you’re not alone in your grief.

  2. joylene Says:

    So many comments is very touching. It makes me grateful to be a human being when I witness such kindness in others. Too bad the evening news didn’t cover stories like this instead of hounding parents during their worse nightmare.

    I’m thinking of the mum who lost her little one last weekend while vacationing in Washington State. It was a horrific murder that shook me to the bone. I wish I could send cyberhugs, but I know reading condolences online is the last thing this mum would want to do. She did give a statement to the press after a few days. I’m paraphrasing what she said: “How do you suppose we’re feeling? What happened was beyond devastating. Please allow us to come to terms with our grief and to mourn in private.”

    I know it’s painful, Pat. But please keep writing.

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