My Salad Day

People who live alone, especially those who have such a state thrust on them because of the death of a spouse or life partner, often have trouble with meals. It seems silly to fix a meal for just one person — it’s so much easier to get take-out, heat frozen meals, or simply snack.

In my case, I usually choose to snack, eating finger foods such as cheese, ham without nitrates or nitrites, fruit, vegetables with dips, in addition to all the tasty non-nutritional foods that are so readily available. It took me a full year before I could fix some of our recipes. (“Our” recipes because we created the recipes.) We used to cook together, usually some sort of entrée and salads. Since our salads were large, elaborate affairs with all sorts of colorful vegetables, it took two of us — one to wash the produce and one to cut it up.

During the past three-and-a-half years, I have often made salads. For some reason, salads were one of the few foods that we prepared together that I could eat — instead of making me feel sad, it made me feel closer to him. Still, it’s hard to fix meals. I just don’t want the fuss, so I revert to snacking.

Deciding to put an end to snacking, at least temporarily, I spent the morning making enough salads to last for several days. It was a great morning — just me and all those colorful vegetables. Now I need to make sure I eat them.


Pat Bertram is the author of the suspense novels Light Bringer, More Deaths Than One, A Spark of Heavenly Fire, and Daughter Am I. Bertram is also the author of Grief: The Great Yearning, “an exquisite book, wrenching to read, and at the same time full of profound truths.” Connect with Pat on Google+. Like Pat on Facebook.

8 Responses to “My Salad Day”

  1. authors promotion Says:

    May you have blessed and bright Christmas Pat!

  2. ROD MARSDEN Says:

    I only bother with ham once a year and that’s at Christmas. The ham comes fresh from my butcher. I hate the taste of tinned ham including Spam. Ham fresh from the butcher is a treat and I guess comfort food for a bachelor.

    As for salads, I should make more of them and also eat more of them. As you say making a salad for yourself seems like a lot to do for little results. If it becomes a ritual or is tied to good memories I can see how that would work.

    Merry Christmas.

    • Pat Bertram Says:

      Merry, Christmas, Rod. I hope you have a great summer! (How fun, I have never before used those two sentences together in the same paragraph!)

      • ROD MARSDEN Says:

        Ha! I bet you haven’t. Right now I’m sitting at the computer wearing my new TARDIS T-shirt. I have my own little dalek to exterminate the furniture. Life is good. A bit damp Christmas Day but that cools things down nicely. I reckon it will be beach weather tomorrow. Life is good. I hope it continues to be good for you.

  3. Paula Kaye Says:

    Those salads look great…..

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