Peace Without Words

Someone asked me if I would purposely stress myself out to get into a creative mood, and my response was an unequivocal “Absolutely not!” I’ve had enough stress in my life to ever want to put myself in such a state, but I have to admit, being stressed out, in pain, or even just confused makes it easier to write. If I am in a mellow mood, which is where I try to be — balanced and in harmony with myself and my surroundings — I find it hard to find something to write about.

Writing has generally been a release for me. If I put chaotic feelings into words, they become more orderly and easier to deal with. There is also a lot to say when one is struggling to find one’s way, but once there, there’s not much to talk about.

Writing fiction is also a release of sorts. If a story is in my head and is struggling to get out, then I have to write it to put it and my mind to rest. But if no story wants to be born? Then there’s nothing really to say. (Though I suppose there will come a time when I decide to write another story just for something to do. In that case, I will then try to put a story in my head.)

So here I am, in a pleasant and harmonious state, trying to find something interesting to write about. After 480 days of straight blogging, I’m not about to give up for a lack of words. Nor am I about to grope around in my mind for the stress that once was there or to do something to unbalance myself (though I don’t know what that would be).

I’m lucky, actually, to be in such a state. There have been many years where I needed the words to relieve the stress that it seems ironic to think I would need stress to find the words.

Someday, I’m sure, there will come an upsurge of grief, a problem with other people (though to have problems with people, you have to be around them, and with this isolation, I hardly see anyone except the woman I visit a few times a week.

Meantime, I will enjoy the peace, even if the peace comes without words.

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Pat Bertram is the author of Grief: The Inside Story – A Guide to Surviving the Loss of a Loved One. “Grief: The Inside Story is perfect and that is not hyperbole! It is exactly what folk who are grieving need to read.” –Leesa Healy, RN, GDAS GDAT, Emotional/Mental Health Therapist & Educator

7 Responses to “Peace Without Words”

  1. Royann Behrmann Says:

    Love your frog.

  2. Judy Galyon Says:

    Peace is a good thing! Though it can be hard to find at times.

  3. rami ungar the writer Says:

    I’ve never been able to write while under stress. Instead, I’m more likely to pour a drink and watch a movie or anime to get my equilibrium back. These days, I try to use healthier means to relax so I can write, like journaling or hypnosis, but in the end, I need to be in a good mood to write. Therefore, I make self-care a priority for me.

  4. Uthayanan Says:

    Any body have tried Kentucky bourbon whiskey (made in USA only) and stimulations intellectual ! One of my wife’s college said it helps when he writes articles !
    I never drink alcohol when I drive, any serious IT technical work with my computer or working with others computer and when I leave from home.
    After her departure when I tested I had a feeling it helps with stress, angoisse, and give some kind of calm and peace. But I am not sure. My wife never interested in alcohol used except for cooking.
    At the moment I have completely stopped alcohol for the reason no compatibility with grief. Specially during the period lockdown and curfew.
    In France it is very difficult in some working conditions if you refuse to participate.

    • Pat Bertram Says:

      I can imagine it’s especially hard in France where wine is so ubiquitous. I’ve never been a drinker, so it wasn’t a hardship for me to stay away from alcohol during my grief years.

      • Uthayanan Says:

        Thank you that’s help and encourage me that I would like to stop completely except some family and professional circumstances when it is necessarily indispensable.


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