When I first got on the internet during its middle years, I tried to sign up for every site I could. I wanted to get discovered as an author — or rather, I wanted to get my books discovered. I didn’t care if I got known, but along the way I made a lot of friends, especially on the defunct site of Gather (sort of a Facebook for writers), even sold some books, but I never did manage to dig myself out of obscurity.
Still, I kept on for many years. Mostly I blogged, but I also had my blog automatically posted to various sites such as LinkedIn, Twitter, Goodreads, and Facebook. That made it easy to keep up with people. Then about seven years ago, Facebook banned my blog, said it was spam. They wouldn’t let anyone post the link and in fact, erased all my posts from their site, every single one, all the way back to the beginning of my Facebook endeavor. I found a way around that by posting a link to this blog to another blog, then posted that link. A couple of years later, I merely shared a post by a conservative black commentator and was excoriated for being a racist. Enough was enough, so I stopped all Facebook activity. Once or twice a year I’d try to post a link, but I always got that same message about the blog being spam, so it’s been years since I actually posted anything.
Wow, except for today! Out of curiosity, I checked to see if my blog was still banned, and I was able to post a link. Does that mean I’ll go back to Facebook? I don’t know. A good friend was banned and his account was deleted with no notice and no recourse, so it’s not as if being able to post is a good reason to post, if you know what I mean.
I like that my main means of communicating online is through this blog. (Well, that and emailing, but email is via the internet, not on the internet, so I’m not sure that counts.) Being in one location keeps me from hopping all over the place looking for comments that might appear elsewhere. And anyway, Facebook no longer allows blog links to be automatically posted directly to the site — I have to go and manually post it. Not a problem in itself, but since I have a problem with Facebook itself (their allowing me to post links to this blog again in no way makes what they did to me okay) it would take a bit of adjustment. But maybe. Someday. Occasionally.
Anyway, thanks for communicating with me here! Even if you just read this, that’s communication too, which is more than anyone can expect. Hope for, perhaps, but not expect.
Enquiring minds always want to know, so no, that’s not my cat. This photo was taken when I was visiting my sister several years ago but it seemed apropos of the theme of this post.
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Pat Bertram is the author of Grief: The Inside Story – A Guide to Surviving the Loss of a Loved One.











Feeling Like a Celebrity
September 23, 2013 — Pat BertramHave you ever met one of those lonely old people who are willing to talk to anyone who happens to wander into their life? They don’t care if you had the wrong address and knocked on their door by mistake. They still ask you to come in, stay and chat awhile, have a glass of fresh-squeezed lemonade or a plate of homemade cookies.
Even better than having people stop by to read something I wrote is when they leave a comment. Getting comments from strangers makes me feel like a celebrity. A person I had never met read what I wrote, and liked it enough to tell me so. Wow!
In the end isn’t that what we’re all looking for, whether we’re young or old, lonely or befriended? Aren’t we all looking for someone to acknowledge us? Someone to see us as apart from all the other billions of people in the world, even if only for a moment? We writers and bloggers spew out billions, trillions of sentences each day, and every single one of them says the same thing: “Notice ME.”
Well, when someone leaves a comment, it tells me that for a single blip of time, I was noticed.
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Pat Bertram is the author of the suspense novels Light Bringer, More Deaths Than One, A Spark of Heavenly Fire, and Daughter Am I. Bertram is also the author of Grief: The Great Yearning, “an exquisite book, wrenching to read, and at the same time full of profound truths.” Connect with Pat on Google+. Like Pat on Facebook.